In the Heart and Soul
of My Beloved
IN LIFE WE HAVE ALL TREKKED THE EXHILARATING MOUNTAIN IN THE SOMETIMES-FRIGHTENING
JOURNEY OF RELATIONSHIPS. WE CANíT AVOID IT. HUMANS CONNECT WITH EACH
OTHER IN THE WORLD THROUGH RELATIONSHIPS. LIFE IS MADE UP OF MILLIONS
OF PEOPLE RELATING IN SIMILAR, YET VERY DIFFERENT WAYS. WE GROW IN
EXPERIENCE THROUGH INTERACTIONS AND REFLECTIONS WITH EACH OTHER. IT
IS THE VENUE FOR EXPRESSING OURSELVES IN UNENDING, MYRIAD WAYS. IT
IS IN RELATIONSHIP THAT WE HAVE THE MOST UPSETS, SUFFERING, DISAPPOINTMENTS,
ANGUISH AND HEARTACHE. OF COURSE WE ALSO EXPERIENCE WONDERFUL, ENLIVENING,
LOVING MOMENTS AND THEN OUT OF NOWHERE, HERE COMES PAIN SURFACING
By Diana Vela
Most relationships are directed by constructs from family, culture,
by influential beliefs and by decisions from life. Elements of these
constructs can be pictures, expectations, issues of control and protection,
poor communication skills, and not being aware of the true yearning
of the soul. So regardless of the thousands of books on relationships
and all the advice, pointers, and relationship tools we are given
by writers, counselors, relatives and friends, there seems to always
be something, a crisis, a breakdown, a problem that comes up in relationship
that we either have to confront, process, suppress, or try to make
the best of. We are all moving along in exactly the perfect place
in the wide evolutionary spectrum of relating. It is important to
know that in this spectrum an extraordinary evolved state has emerged.
I want to introduce you to a beautiful form of connecting with another
that is not so common in this world. It is available for those who
are ready to embark on a spiritually conscious relationship, an alliance
that is congruent, in harmony with our true self and all creation,
the union we were meant to live. It involves embracing and bringing
forth into life the existential state of our self, in turn, recognizing
and relating with another person in this way.
If we focus inside our selves to the very depth of our being, inside
where soul resides, we will discover an immense yearning, a vacuum
of longing. This yearning is an ache so visceral, so loud that it
painfully reminds us that we as human beings are vitally missing something.
That yearning is a cry for help to have us notice that we have not
yet tapped the source of true sacred and fulfilling holy love in relationships
and brought it openly to life. Yet, even those who have tapped into
the awareness of this yearning and have set a course, looking for
answers and solutions, may after a time, give up, concluding it a
hopeless quest. I have witnessed peopleís deep pain and suffering
from the years of not having filled this yearning in their lives,
and not knowing what to do.
Presently there is love, much love, but is there really a connection
that gently, lovingly, heals, soothes, and fills our precious soulís
yearnings, one that brings to light a union of love beyond our conception?
What is missing that prevents this state of relating? Most of us are
blindly trying, attempting, making the same mistakes over and over
again until we eventually conclude we must make the best of it and
be satisfied with whatever love we do experience.
Up to this point in life, there has been no awareness, no instruction,
or model to follow on how to fulfill our soulís desperate desire.
Once we give up and stop the search, we hopelessly succumb to what
life offers. In a state of despondence the soul contracts within itself,
hopeless of ever being recognized, of ever having the freedom to express
the immense love it possesses. When this happens, a part of our spirit,
our innocent spark and light of life, shuts down or dims.
Why is it that we are not all searching to find the direction needed
to fulfill the most divine in our heart and soul? Maybe the potential
was there with the relationship we began with, but in time something
went askew. Maybe we reached for help collecting tools and skills
in communicating and relating. The relationship now becomes more workable,
but can it reach that state of loving and intimate union of heart
and soul that quenches the yearning?
You can reclaim your hope once again, bring back the radiance in your
eyes, the laughter in your voice, with spontaneous enthusiasm, openly
sharing yourself and the endless love inside you. Open your heart;
bring back the majesty of the soul to your life.
There is an answer. Wherever you are in this world, wake up to a life
of true love and a life of freedom to be as you were created to be.
Come back to a life you were born to have. At last, bare your innocence,
uncover the beauty, and release the spirit.
The answer and directions are found inside your heart. It is waiting
to unite the soul with the wisdom of the heart to reveal the beautiful
relationship within your self that is the necessary foundation - the
source - for whole relationships. Once the soul and the heart are
united, there is no stopping the fulfillment. Once established in
partnership, a union beyond your dreams has a framework to bring forth
magnificence that only God can create.
This perfection of relationship is available for you the moment you
choose to have nothing less than the highest, in holy resonance with
the expression of both your heart and your resplendent soulÖnothing
less. In this state, the soul in freedom, shares its endless love
with another in open recognition of each otherís divine essence. Brilliant
love beyond any love known, generated from eternity, is expressed.
In this state, soul fulfills its dream of going through the wonders
of life with another in recognition of their common source of existence.
The resulting love and relationship is deep, beautiful, holy, honest
and pure. There is no doubt it is real, authentically real.
Are you ready to begin this journey of sacred love and relationship?
In the many years of my commitment to live this state of sacred love
with my own relationships as well as working with couples and singles
in bringing sacred are Here are some simple, but powerful insights
and qualities of relating that if utilized and followed, can move
you deeply into your sacred journey. In committing to expressing the
highest creation of love with your beloved, remember Ďbelovedí is
not only the Ďbelovedí in life, but also the inner Ďbelovedí inside
your heart as well.
In the realm of sacred love there are no secrets.
If you feel a bit separate from yourself or from your beloved, communicate
with love what is in your heart. Speak only words from the heart.
Do not embellish. Speak solely from the heart. This will begin to
bridge the gap and bring you together in sacred union once again.
Discover, enjoy and delight in the spirit of the person you are with.
There is something so special in each of us. It is the touch of the
divine expressing in every one of us. See it in your beloved and even
with yourself, enjoy it with all of your heart.
Understand there is uniqueness in every soul's expression
and journey. Enjoy and respect the very special uniqueness
of your beloved and yourself. Allow them and yourself the freedom
of soul's unique journey and special expressions. Allowing every soul
its own expression and experiences in their journey is what is necessary
for spiritual development. It is in integrity to the whole to not
thwart or hold back our belovedís spiritual development, expression,
and journey, as well as our own.
Open your heart to receive the gifts of love sent
you way by your beloved. Begin to see the hundreds of gifts
of love given to you, sent in obvious and non obvious ways. Open to
the love in a gesture, a touch, a look, in the never ending things
done or spoken. Receive with love the gifts of love. The love will
then be returned to your beloved a hundred fold.
Understand the rhythm of our souls. As
we note the rhythm of life and nature, in the planets, the stars,
the weather, seasons, the stages of life from birth to death, and
in the expression of our bodies, so we find a unique rhythm in our
own and otherís soul. As you begin to recognize and honor your own
unique rhythm and needs that go with it, and also of your precious
beloved's, you will understand the cost of not being aware of soulís
rhythm by the many past experiences of misunderstandings, disharmony,
confusion, and upsets.
Do not hold back or add to yourself in sacred relationship.
Just be who you are.
Allow the deep love in relationship to bring out the true you. As
you love your beloved unconditionally, the true soul begins to emerge
knowing it is safe to be its true self. It is vital to eliminate expectations,
pictures, and judgments in the relationship. They limit, block, and
imprison the soul's true essence and its full expression. They contribute
to inauthenticity and separation in a relationship, closing down the
fire and spirit of the soul.
Be in awe of the essence and beauty of Godís creation in your beloved.
Adore, honor and hold each other sacred. The pure essence of your
beloved is a gift to you to share divine love, play, and enjoyment
together in the unending beauty of this created world.
Have everything you do or say with your beloved
and in life be an expression of the overflowing love in your heart.
Allow the immense love to flow outwardly embracing and filling your
beloved, for love is the ultimate communication of the soul.
Gaze into the eyes of your beloved frequently.
As the saying goes, Ďthe eyes are the windows of the soulí. Connect
and merge with the soul of your beloved as frequently as possible.
Do not let a day go by that you donít connect. You will discover depth
of love, richness, and intimacy beyond your dreams. It is the time
two souls connect in the purest essence of eternal love.
Remember the preciousness and sweetness of shared
laughter, lightness and play. Donít take life and all its
complexity too seriously. As one partner contributes depth of soul,
passion and a sacred love, so the other can shed the light that makes
brilliant the beauty of life and lifts all our experiences to pure
delight into the highest ecstasy as beloved souls immersed in our
These are just a few qualities to bring to your relationship to assist
in the initial transition. Begin with any one of these qualities of
being. Once integrated, embrace the next one into your life. Remember,
focus on your vision, remain in a state of spiritual innocence, follow
the urgings of your heart and allow soul the freedom to live and express.
Most importantly, allow love to be the foundation and leading force
in your relationships and in all of life. This could be the beginning
of an incredible conscious journey of sacred relationship in the heart
and soul of your beloved.
With love from my heart to yours.
Bio: Diana Vela, founder and director of Programs of the Heart, Inc.
in America, has in the last 20 years, taught thousands of people to
live a magnificent life from the Heart. Your are invited to join participate
in The Heart and Soul of my Beloved Course offered for both singles
and couples. Go to www.programsoftheheart.com
to find the dates and cities where this program is being offered.
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