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In the Heart and Soul of My Beloved

By Diana Vela

IN LIFE WE HAVE ALL TREKKED THE EXHILARATING MOUNTAIN IN THE SOMETIMES-FRIGHTENING JOURNEY OF RELATIONSHIPS. WE CANíT AVOID IT. HUMANS CONNECT WITH EACH OTHER IN THE WORLD THROUGH RELATIONSHIPS. LIFE IS MADE UP OF MILLIONS OF PEOPLE RELATING IN SIMILAR, YET VERY DIFFERENT WAYS. WE GROW IN EXPERIENCE THROUGH INTERACTIONS AND REFLECTIONS WITH EACH OTHER. IT IS THE VENUE FOR EXPRESSING OURSELVES IN UNENDING, MYRIAD WAYS. IT IS IN RELATIONSHIP THAT WE HAVE THE MOST UPSETS, SUFFERING, DISAPPOINTMENTS, ANGUISH AND HEARTACHE. OF COURSE WE ALSO EXPERIENCE WONDERFUL, ENLIVENING, LOVING MOMENTS AND THEN OUT OF NOWHERE, HERE COMES PAIN SURFACING ONCE AGAIN.

Most relationships are directed by constructs from family, culture, by influential beliefs and by decisions from life. Elements of these constructs can be pictures, expectations, issues of control and protection, poor communication skills, and not being aware of the true yearning of the soul. So regardless of the thousands of books on relationships and all the advice, pointers, and relationship tools we are given by writers, counselors, relatives and friends, there seems to always be something, a crisis, a breakdown, a problem that comes up in relationship that we either have to confront, process, suppress, or try to make the best of. We are all moving along in exactly the perfect place in the wide evolutionary spectrum of relating. It is important to know that in this spectrum an extraordinary evolved state has emerged. I want to introduce you to a beautiful form of connecting with another that is not so common in this world. It is available for those who are ready to embark on a spiritually conscious relationship, an alliance that is congruent, in harmony with our true self and all creation, the union we were meant to live. It involves embracing and bringing forth into life the existential state of our self, in turn, recognizing and relating with another person in this way.

If we focus inside our selves to the very depth of our being, inside where soul resides, we will discover an immense yearning, a vacuum of longing. This yearning is an ache so visceral, so loud that it painfully reminds us that we as human beings are vitally missing something. That yearning is a cry for help to have us notice that we have not yet tapped the source of true sacred and fulfilling holy love in relationships and brought it openly to life. Yet, even those who have tapped into the awareness of this yearning and have set a course, looking for answers and solutions, may after a time, give up, concluding it a hopeless quest. I have witnessed peopleís deep pain and suffering from the years of not having filled this yearning in their lives, and not knowing what to do.

Presently there is love, much love, but is there really a connection that gently, lovingly, heals, soothes, and fills our precious soulís yearnings, one that brings to light a union of love beyond our conception? What is missing that prevents this state of relating? Most of us are blindly trying, attempting, making the same mistakes over and over again until we eventually conclude we must make the best of it and be satisfied with whatever love we do experience.

Up to this point in life, there has been no awareness, no instruction, or model to follow on how to fulfill our soulís desperate desire. Once we give up and stop the search, we hopelessly succumb to what life offers. In a state of despondence the soul contracts within itself, hopeless of ever being recognized, of ever having the freedom to express the immense love it possesses. When this happens, a part of our spirit, our innocent spark and light of life, shuts down or dims.

Why is it that we are not all searching to find the direction needed to fulfill the most divine in our heart and soul? Maybe the potential was there with the relationship we began with, but in time something went askew. Maybe we reached for help collecting tools and skills in communicating and relating. The relationship now becomes more workable, but can it reach that state of loving and intimate union of heart and soul that quenches the yearning?

You can reclaim your hope once again, bring back the radiance in your eyes, the laughter in your voice, with spontaneous enthusiasm, openly sharing yourself and the endless love inside you. Open your heart; bring back the majesty of the soul to your life.

There is an answer. Wherever you are in this world, wake up to a life of true love and a life of freedom to be as you were created to be. Come back to a life you were born to have. At last, bare your innocence, uncover the beauty, and release the spirit.

The answer and directions are found inside your heart. It is waiting to unite the soul with the wisdom of the heart to reveal the beautiful relationship within your self that is the necessary foundation - the source - for whole relationships. Once the soul and the heart are united, there is no stopping the fulfillment. Once established in partnership, a union beyond your dreams has a framework to bring forth magnificence that only God can create.

This perfection of relationship is available for you the moment you choose to have nothing less than the highest, in holy resonance with the expression of both your heart and your resplendent soulÖnothing less. In this state, the soul in freedom, shares its endless love with another in open recognition of each otherís divine essence. Brilliant love beyond any love known, generated from eternity, is expressed. In this state, soul fulfills its dream of going through the wonders of life with another in recognition of their common source of existence. The resulting love and relationship is deep, beautiful, holy, honest and pure. There is no doubt it is real, authentically real.

Are you ready to begin this journey of sacred love and relationship?

In the many years of my commitment to live this state of sacred love with my own relationships as well as working with couples and singles in bringing sacred are Here are some simple, but powerful insights and qualities of relating that if utilized and followed, can move you deeply into your sacred journey. In committing to expressing the highest creation of love with your beloved, remember Ďbelovedí is not only the Ďbelovedí in life, but also the inner Ďbelovedí inside your heart as well.

In the realm of sacred love there are no secrets. If you feel a bit separate from yourself or from your beloved, communicate with love what is in your heart. Speak only words from the heart. Do not embellish. Speak solely from the heart. This will begin to bridge the gap and bring you together in sacred union once again.

Discover, enjoy and delight in the spirit of the person you are with. There is something so special in each of us. It is the touch of the divine expressing in every one of us. See it in your beloved and even with yourself, enjoy it with all of your heart.

Understand there is uniqueness in every soul's expression and journey. Enjoy and respect the very special uniqueness of your beloved and yourself. Allow them and yourself the freedom of soul's unique journey and special expressions. Allowing every soul its own expression and experiences in their journey is what is necessary for spiritual development. It is in integrity to the whole to not thwart or hold back our belovedís spiritual development, expression, and journey, as well as our own.

Open your heart to receive the gifts of love sent you way by your beloved. Begin to see the hundreds of gifts of love given to you, sent in obvious and non obvious ways. Open to the love in a gesture, a touch, a look, in the never ending things done or spoken. Receive with love the gifts of love. The love will then be returned to your beloved a hundred fold.

Understand the rhythm of our souls. As we note the rhythm of life and nature, in the planets, the stars, the weather, seasons, the stages of life from birth to death, and in the expression of our bodies, so we find a unique rhythm in our own and otherís soul. As you begin to recognize and honor your own unique rhythm and needs that go with it, and also of your precious beloved's, you will understand the cost of not being aware of soulís rhythm by the many past experiences of misunderstandings, disharmony, confusion, and upsets.

Do not hold back or add to yourself in sacred relationship. Just be who you are.

Allow the deep love in relationship to bring out the true you. As you love your beloved unconditionally, the true soul begins to emerge knowing it is safe to be its true self. It is vital to eliminate expectations, pictures, and judgments in the relationship. They limit, block, and imprison the soul's true essence and its full expression. They contribute to inauthenticity and separation in a relationship, closing down the fire and spirit of the soul.

Be in awe of the essence and beauty of Godís creation in your beloved. Adore, honor and hold each other sacred. The pure essence of your beloved is a gift to you to share divine love, play, and enjoyment together in the unending beauty of this created world.

Have everything you do or say with your beloved and in life be an expression of the overflowing love in your heart. Allow the immense love to flow outwardly embracing and filling your beloved, for love is the ultimate communication of the soul.

Gaze into the eyes of your beloved frequently. As the saying goes, Ďthe eyes are the windows of the soulí. Connect and merge with the soul of your beloved as frequently as possible. Do not let a day go by that you donít connect. You will discover depth of love, richness, and intimacy beyond your dreams. It is the time two souls connect in the purest essence of eternal love.

Remember the preciousness and sweetness of shared laughter, lightness and play. Donít take life and all its complexity too seriously. As one partner contributes depth of soul, passion and a sacred love, so the other can shed the light that makes brilliant the beauty of life and lifts all our experiences to pure delight into the highest ecstasy as beloved souls immersed in our love.

These are just a few qualities to bring to your relationship to assist in the initial transition. Begin with any one of these qualities of being. Once integrated, embrace the next one into your life. Remember, focus on your vision, remain in a state of spiritual innocence, follow the urgings of your heart and allow soul the freedom to live and express. Most importantly, allow love to be the foundation and leading force in your relationships and in all of life. This could be the beginning of an incredible conscious journey of sacred relationship in the heart and soul of your beloved.
With love from my heart to yours.

Bio: Diana Vela, founder and director of Programs of the Heart, Inc. in America, has in the last 20 years, taught thousands of people to live a magnificent life from the Heart. Your are invited to join participate in The Heart and Soul of my Beloved Course offered for both singles and couples. Go to www.programsoftheheart.com to find the dates and cities where this program is being offered.

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